The World of “Supposed to”s

I hate the words “supposed to”. Why is it people feel like there are roles that they’re SUPPOSED to fill in life? Oh, you’re SUPPOSED to do that. You’re SUPPOSED to say these words. You’re SUPPOSED to like these certain things. When did living your life suddenly conform into a puzzle of “SUPPOSED to’s”?

When you come to college, it feels like all there is is buildings constructed of brick expectations, filled with insecure mass-produced people. Left and right, people are changing who they were days ago because, suddenly, they’re in college. Their equilibriums go out of whack because, oh, in college you’re SUPPOSED to be exactly who you weren’t yesterday. Every weekend I hear someone saying that they’re going out or they’re getting drunk because that’s what you’re SUPPOSED to do in college. What about doing whatever the heck you want simply because you WANT to? Not because you’re SUPPOSED to. Is it really worth completely changing yourself just because society and movies are saying that, yes, this is exactly how you should be living as a college student and if you aren’t, there must be something wrong with you? Do things because you WANT to, not because you think they’re what you’re SUPPOSED to be doing.

Things I’ve been told I’m SUPPOSED to do because of my age, but don’t really want to listen to:

• I’m SUPPOSED to drink and get drunk whenever possible
• I’m SUPPOSED to want to break the rules
• I’m SUPPOSED to want to travel all over the world while I’m young
• I’m SUPPOSED to want to wait to get married because wanting to get married young just isn’t right nowadays
• I’m SUPPOSED to spend my money on things like concerts and festivals
• I’m SUPPOSED to want to live in an apartment and work in the city instead of somewhere in the suburbs

Do what you’re going to do, but not because you think it’s what you’re SUPPOSED to do. Do it because it’s what you want to do, because you have to get it out of your system once or twice, because it’s something you’ll genuinely enjoy years down the road. Not because it’s what you’ve seen millions do before you. And don’t ever let anyone make you feel bad for doing what you WANT because it’s what makes you you.

Weekend Reflections

Happy Sunday dearies!

My posts on here have been very sporadic and I apologize about that, but being a college student takes up 110% of my time! I promise to keep updating, but it won’t be nearly as often as I’d like so make sure you keep an eye out.

That being said, I hope everyone is adjusting to the new year and to the new semester if you’re in the same boat I am. These past couple of days have been a mixture of exhausting (Inauguration Day, ugh) and empowering (The international Women’s Marches, woohoo ladies!). I’m so blessed to live in an area of the country where most points of view on anything and everything are respected and protected fiercely because I know that this is not always the case elsewhere. I have friends here at school that attended the Inauguration,and the Women’s Marches, and the Pro-Life Marches, and everything in between, and it’s a true privilege to be able to listen to all of their opinions and better understand the thoughts that build their different characters. The most incredible part of this weekend was watching everyday citizens, albeit MILLIONS of them, go out and fight for what they believe in. The bread and butter of our American government system is exactly that. This weekend millions of citizens exercised their right to protest the very government that grants them that right and it was an empowering sight to see. Our country may be going through some very big changes, but the heart of our democracy never left and continues to thrive every single day. This weekend couldn’t have been a better representation of that.

Regards,

Kathryn

Bad Haircuts and Long Breaks

Hi everyone! Happy New Year! Today I’m talking about winter break home from college and that haircut that you thought you’d love, but had second thoughts about after the chop. Yikes.

I’m home from school right now and will be for a little while longer and I know I’m not the first person to say it, but winter break can seem very long. I met just about all my good friends at Fordham so they fly off to their homes during breaks and it’s nearly impossible to see them, even those that live closer to me. That being said, breaks often seem pretty lonely to me as everyone I’d like to be spending my time with is in Texas or California or Wisconsin. It can be tough to watch (what seems like) everyone else visit people from home and have something to do every single day, but then it’s also nice to realize that you’re on a BREAK! *insert gif of Ross from friends saying this here* Yes, my friends, winter break for college students is, in fact, a real break without homework or impending midterms and it’s important to remember that if you’re ever feeling like you’re missing out on things. Take the month to chill, watch movies, and catch up on sleep before the spring semester picks up and you’ll be thrown back into reality.

During said break, I also decided to get my hair cut, a task I usually love. However, yesterday I realized that it is indeed possible to dislike a haircut. My whole life I’ve been fine with every single haircut I got. I cut it often and usually cut very much off every time. I’m not attached to my hair as so many people are, which I think is good for me as a person. Today though, I’m not too happy with how my hair looks and will definitely have to do something about it sooner or later. My mom told me to just make the best of it and I think she’s right, no matter how much I say I hate it. Thanks, Mom. Bloom where you’re planted, life keeps moving. And hair keeps growing. So to all you ladies (or gentlemen) who have gotten a haircut that was less fantastic than you were expecting, don’t let it be the end of the world, just work with it until it grows out and then start again.

Until next time!

What a Weekend!

Going to school in New York City, people always tell you to experience everything. It’s such a vibrant place with something new and exciting happening on every corner (not to mention that many of these things are discounted or even FREE with a Student ID!) Well, this weekend was, by far, one of the most mindbogglingly eventful of my time here at Fordham. I went to a lot of events and met many people I’ve never even dreamed of attending or meeting. Living in New York City opens hundreds, no thousands of doors of opportunity, but it’s up to you to walk through them. I’ll be doing some posts later on about what exactly it was that made this weekend so spectacular, but until then, all I can do is grin and smile and think “wow” because I am so grateful to be granted the opportunities I am and to be able to have this miraculous city right under my feet.

Until the next door opens,

Kathryn